Oh my goodness, if I had a dollar for every time someone asks me this, I’d have a down payment for a really nice condo in Chicago. I mean, I get it, you think it’s a compliment. Because society has conditioned us to believe that if a woman is attractive with a pleasant enough personality… Continue reading FAQ #1: Why Are You Still Single?
After a few months of recovering from my heartbreak, I decided to give dating another go After all, I have yet to admit defeat and succumb to spinsterdom. Kyle had recently returned to the Pacific Northwest from Kentucky where he had been involved in politics (in what way, I can’t remember). He and I easily… Continue reading October 2016—The Time I Nearly Fell for a Mysogonistic Asshole
I was 29 the first time I fell in love. Writing that sentence is still hard for me because I still have issues believing I fell in love with someone who wasn’t able to love me back. Nathan made me feel AMAZING and I thought he was perfect for me. Except that I wasn’t perfect… Continue reading Summer 2016—The Time I First Experienced Heartbreak
By early 2016, I’d been in graduate school for 4.5 years and I’d found that guys apparently aren’t really into the whole “getting a PhD” thing I had going on. Their loss. While in my Master’s, I had one Chicago guy friend (and I’m using this term loosely here, we just ran in the same… Continue reading February 2016—The Time He Turned Out to be Needy
Whenever someone asks me about my experience in grad school I ask them if they enjoy being poor. I returned to grad school full-time after working a full-time job for four years (and thus got used to having a middle-class income) but took a massive pay cut when I quit my job to live on… Continue reading November 2015—The Time I Discovered That (Maybe) Men and Woman Can’t Be Friends
There have only been a handful of instances in which I’ve dated a guy I could actually see myself marrying. The thing about me is I’m very good at talking myself out of relationships for a wide range of reasons: they don’t want to travel, don’t like the outdoors, aren’t willing to do artsy intellectual… Continue reading Winter 2012—The Time A Guy Left Me for China